Nothing will ever change for the better in our world until each of us looks inward, and identifies our own self-violence and conflicts. What we experience outside is a manifestation of the friction that is going on inside each of us.

We all spend a considerable amount of time in self-judgements, and this creates inner friction and the energy of violence. That is where the micro-chasm of violence starts. That is where prejudice starts. It’s not “out there” it’s within ourselves.

We can’t truly and fully connect to the idea of removing prejudice, racism, and violence from world, until we begin to lift our own the self-judgements that create our inner friction.

How do we dispose of the brutality which we have all recently witnessed?

We have to find a way to free ourselves of the savagery in our souls, psyches and spirits.

Taking a real deep look at ourselves in the mirror of self-awareness and seeking to find the brutality we harbor inside, is an immense advance towards ridding ourselves and society of its egoic propensity for outrage and insensitivity.

It is normal to blow up now and again, particularly when something doesn’t go right; such as getting cut off in rush hour gridlock. Typically, when we perceive indignation, we feel inept and embarrassed. On the off chance that we can screen our outrage and remember it originates from the bogus self-ego that it isn’t what our true divine identity is, we can pardon and release it.

We should be straightforward with ourselves, nonetheless, to see the resentments we hold on to, acknowledge them and assess the attachments we have in our hearts and psyche to these negative energies. We need to identify the internal friction we keep giving life to.

We have a choice and decision to make each time outrage emerges, to acknowledge it, and then state, “this isn’t who I am, I am love,” and let it go.

“When love enters our mind, body and soul, harmony is recaptured and resonated across the entire world.”

We are for the most part the heroes and the troublemakers of our own lives, yet love is what needs to be the pervasive force in order to impact change in our community and the world.

One way we can begin to change the outcomes of violence in our world is to make some astute move to sensibly lessen exposure to viciousness. Here are a couple of ways we can do that:

1) Refuse to watch savage glorification of weapons and viciousness on TV which are similarly as hazardous as abuse of alcohol and cigarettes consumption. The youth are in effect horrendously abused by the “entertainment and gaming” industries. They are being exposed to a regimen of brutality on TV, computer games and motion pictures.

Brutality, murder and wrongdoing are viewed as amusement since it brings in cash for TV stations, publicists, journalists, on-screen characters, movie producers, and their organizations and that’s only the tip of the iceberg.

2) Fund psychological well-being programs liberally. Fund them and set psychological wellness front and center. All families either have or know somebody who is battling with some wellness challenge, causing them to abuse drugs, alcohol, and turn to unhealthy life choices to cope.

We need more wellness education and access to programs that reward people for speaking their truth and not feeling shame for who they are.

Self-shame is another form of self-violence that generates inner friction and negative energy. All that negative energy builds up over time, and manifests in riots, looting, disease, war, and division among people. 

We don’t give enough value to how these packets of negative energy create clouds of chaos in the future that come raining down on all of us in the form of human conflict storms.

3) Stop self-judgments. Regardless of how achieved we are, regardless of how upbeat we may appear, self-judgements creep up on all of us. They keep us from finding our capacity to transform ourselves and improve things.

Through the act of self-care, we can figure out how to see when we are tearing ourselves down, and start to change our propensity for self-analysis, and self-hate.

Stop the Friction

By and large, the desire for self-judgment is to secure ourselves against dismissal and disappointment. We dishonestly accept that, “On the off chance that I judge myself, I can get better so that others won’t reject me, and I will have a sense of security and get acknowledged by others.”

Progressively self-judgment follows the absence of activity, which brings about more tension, more friction and immobilization, until we are totally stuck and hopeless.

The exit from this is to get mindful of your sentiments of dread, tension, outrage or sorrow and afterward ask yourself, “What did I simply reveal to myself that is making this inclination?”

Once you become mindful of the self-judgment, you will then be able to ask yourself, “Am I sure that what I am letting myself know is valid?”

When we open up to reality, we will find a sort of sympathetic method of addressing ourselves, a way that causes us to feel adored and safe, as opposed to on edge, irate or discouraged.

“Be kind to yourself, and don’t pass judgment on yourself for making decisions about your life that lead you to learning and growing.”

It will require some investment and devotion to get mindful of your self-decisions and figure out how to be benevolent toward yourself, however the final product is so worth it.

A considerable lot of us measure our state of being not through cognizant decision, but through the disgracing we’ve been exposed to growing up. In any case, everybody has their own way of measuring their state of being.

What we have to learn is how to tolerate our own judgments in order to extend the same to others. When we proactively do that, we begin to lift the friction we show up with in relationships, in our community, and in the world.

The less friction we show up with, the less the violence in the world. It is truly up to every single one of us to make the effort to remove violence from the world, by first working on eliminating our own inner friction.